Have you noticed that the western world seems to have adopted a mass "I'll be happy when… " mindset?
I’ll be happy when… I have lost weight, got a new job, a new partner, a new car, a new business, a new house. I'll be happy when… I get that promotion, I've paid off my debts, I have more money, I'm married, divorced or had a baby.
I thought like this for most of my adult life. I truly believed that I would be happier when I lost weight. That life would be absolutely perfect. That I would suddenly look in the mirror and be wonderfully happy with who I saw looking back at me. But after losing six and a half stones, that didn't happen. I still felt the same way about myself.
We are often so fixated on what we don't have in our lives that we miss the point. I know I did. I didn’t understand that true happiness lies within us, not outside of us. Yes, we can be happy about external events or situations, like a new relationship, a promotion or a fun, pleasurable experience, but that kind of happiness is short-lived – it fades as quickly as the memory of the event fades.
The world is definitely changing. There has been a huge shift in consciousness with millions of people around the world coming to the same conclusions. That there must be a better way to live. That our lives are too busy and too stressful. That we often spend so much time either thinking about the past or worrying about the future, we forget about the present. That this is not a dress rehearsal. That this is our one chance at this life and we must make it count.
Life is supposed to be fun, joyful and exciting, not sad, dreary and boring.
"Happiness is a choice, not a destination." Many of us have read or heard that statement more than once in our lives, but few actually believe it or attempt to put it into practice in our own lives. We nod, agree and say "That’s so true", and carry on in exactly the same way. Allowing other people or situations to determine our happiness (or lack of it in many cases).
Can we really just make up our minds to be happy? The answer is yes, we can. And the HappiMe apps will show you how.
Do you know the worst culprit for causing unhappiness? Your Chimp brain, the negative voice in your head that chatters away tirelessly. Telling you how rubbish you are, how you are too fat, too young, too old, too shy, not attractive enough, not confident enough or not clever enough. The HappiMe apps help you to get on a first name basis with your Chimp brain. You’ll learn how to manage your thinking and how you can choose a more optimistic and helpful attitude, regardless of what is going on around you.
That may seem a tall order right now, but the app will teach you all you need to know to quieten that pesky Chimp. And when you can consistently choose a happier, more optimistic attitude, the universe will move mountains to help you to achieve your dream life. Life is calmer, people are friendlier, and tasks get easier.
So, let’s stop with the “I’ll be happy when…” crap. Instead, let's make a decision to be happy right here, right now. There is no better time. You in?
To your happiness
Jo Richings x
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