e all have a bucket of anxiety that we fill up during the day – things happen that upset us, and we store them in our bucket ready to be dealt with at night. We are often told to ‘sleep on it’, that ‘it will look better in the morning’, and often this is the case.
But sometimes we don’t get enough sleep, or we have too much in our bucket. The subconscious then decides that you have too much going on, and to be safe, it will take control to try and ‘save’ you. We then experience anxiety, panic, depression and anger.
When we were cavemen, these were really useful responses that kept us safe. Anger made us stronger, anxiety kept us on ‘red alert’ listening out for other dangers, and depression kept us safe in our caves. But these days we are very rarely in physical danger – it’s more likely to be ringing phones, social media and missed appointments filling up our bucket.
Anyone who has shared a house with a young baby will recognise the feelings of despair that start to accompany the sound of a baby crying in the night, and the effects of another sleepless night. It becomes harder to eat healthily as the body craves sugar to keep awake, small problems become insurmountable, and crumbs on the kitchen floor become a crying matter.
So if you can, get to bed early and get some quality time with the duvet. If you have trouble sleeping, try switching screens off earlier, have no light at all in your room, and don’t focus on ‘not sleeping’ – instead replace those thoughts with ‘I sleep easily and deeply’, or something that sounds right for you. If you already sleep well but just have a lot going on right now, you may like to download my relaxation track here. Put it on when you lie down to sleep and use it to focus on positive messages. You can’t do it wrong, so give it a go.
One of the benefits of hypnotherapy is that it helps empty your bucket! But whatever you do, keep trying, and always focus on the positives and what you want to happen, rather than what you don’t!
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I have a panic disorder and was unsure of how hypnotherapy could help me, but I needed to give it a go. Sam instantly put my mind at rest and was incredibly friendly. The sessions have helped me so much, and I will be eternally grateful. It has not cured my disorder, however, I have learned how to manage it much more, and I am so grateful to Sam for that. X. Mandy
Sam is really helping me through a difficult time, and I leave there feeling very relaxed and worry-free after every session. John
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