It’s not what we have or haven’t got that’s important. What’s important is how we feel about what we have or haven’t got.
We all know people that have nothing but are still happy. And we all know people that seem to have everything but are still unhappy.
What many people forget is that we can choose our attitude every single minute of every single hour of every single day. There is always a choice. Every time something happens to us in life, we can choose to react positively, learn the lessons that need to be learned, take responsibility and move on. Or we can choose to behave in a negative way, where we blame other people or situations and make endless excuses.
We can choose to wake up and tell ourselves that today is going to be a great day or not.
It’s a choice.
We always have the power to choose more helpful, more positive thoughts. We have the power to turn our attention wherever we like.
Unfortunately, we often forget this and give our power away. We let other people or situations control our happiness. We allow our chimp brain take control when things don’t go our way. We sulk, get upset, throw our toys out of our pram, stomp about, huff and puff, swear, have a pity party, go into a bubble, or whatever is your chimp’s way of behaving when things don’t go your way. What a complete and utter waste of time and energy. It rarely, if ever, does any good.
Quite often we cannot control the things that are happening around us, but we CAN control the attitude with which we choose to react. A situation or person can't “make” us feel annoyed, upset, stressed or fed up. True – people can do things or say things to us that could evoke these emotions, but we still choose to allow the emotion to happen. We are in control of ourselves, nobody else.
When something bad happens to us, it doesn’t have to ruin our day or our life. We can choose a different reaction. We can learn to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and go at it again.
Allowing yourself to worry is a habit. It’s just a skill you have developed – like cleaning your teeth, but with none of the benefits.
Allowing yourself to feel anger or rage towards another person is a little like picking up a burning coal to throw – you are the one who will get burnt.
Refusing to forgive someone is a little like swallowing poison and hoping the other person will get sick. You are the one who suffers most.
You can learn to recognise when your chimp is running the show. You can learn to choose a more helpful way of thinking. You can learn to use a better attitude.
Keeping you positive :-)
Business & management coach, mentor, trainer, author, speaker, social entrepreneur, (and chief pot and bottle washer!)